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We won’t judge you for being curious (we are, too): Can women really, um, squirt? You’ve seen it in so many porn vids you’ve lost count and when you talk to that one dude who always brags about his sex life (and his size), he can’t stop going on-and-on about how he makes his girlfriend ‘come’ every time they get naked.
How To Make Her Ejaculate
Here’s the honest-to-goodness, straight-from-the-experts, answer: Yes, you can make your girlfriend ejaculate. But while squirting – or its actual term, female ejaculation – isn’t a myth or impossible, it’ll take some true studying of her body, practice and being very comfortable with a big mess (hey, she’s been putting up with yours all this time) to make magic happen in the bedroom. This makes it a fun endeavor for couples who have been together for many years, as it provides a way to shake things up in the bedroom and challenge your limitations and sexual education.
The first step, of course, is understanding what exactly you’re aiming to do to your lady’s body with a quick deep dive into her anatomy. If you aren’t comfortable discussing and exploring the in’s and out’s-you might not be ready to study female ejaculation.
“Before talking about squirting, it’s important to know a little bit about the female anatomy,” psychologist and sexual expert Dr. Rachel Needle says. “Female ejaculation is characterized by the expulsion of a significant quantity of fluid from the woman’s urethra during orgasm. Many people refer to this as ‘squirting’ or ‘gushing.'”
So how do you make your girlfriend squirt? Experts give you the dirty run-down on female ejaculation, along with some things you likely never knew about your leading lady’s body parts:
1. What’s Happening, Physically?
It might seem sexy to ‘turn on a girl so much that she squirts’ – but without knowing the physical reasons that her body is responding in this way, it’ll be hard to begin the process of helping her orgasm in such a powerful way. Much like the way you finish and release a liquid, women can do the same. In fact, the erogenous zones have similar functions, but your partner’s spot might be a bit more difficult to find an stimulate than your own.
“Female ejaculation is often associated with the G-spot, which is said to be located in the anterior vaginal wall, halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix along the urethra. While everyone has heard of the G-spot, many people don’t know about the Skene’s glands,” Needle explains. “Skene’s glands are sometimes referred to as the ‘female prostate” for anatomical analogy. The male prostate is responsible for generating most of the content of seminal fluid. By analogy, the ‘female prostate’ is thought to produce the content of female ejaculate.”
Makes sense, right? Though you can likely stimulate most every woman’s G-spot, causing them to feel a deeper, more intense pleasure during intercourse, fingering play or oral sex, Needle notes that not every woman’s Skene’s glands (remember: the female prostate that produces liquid like your prostate) are developed enough to make large quantities of female ejaculate. Also, your girlfriend might not even know that you’re starting to engage those glands because for most women, the sensation feels the same as if she was about to urinate, so they naturally hold back.